I have this habit of saying ‘I’m sorry’ when I have a real, realistic request that might mildly inconvenience someone. Maybe it’s learned helplessness. Maybe it’s just something to say so I don’t stand there awkwardly as someone helps me do something. I’ve always had this habit, and its always bothered the adults in my life (the ones that are adultier than me, because remember, I am an “adult”) to the point they’ve asked me to stop saying that dreaded phrase.

Stop saying ‘I’m Sorry’

“I’m sorry this tiny issue has inconvenienced you.”

“Sorry I cannot help you because it physically hurts me to do the thing you’re asking of me.”

“Even though I needed this surgery, I’m sorry I must rely on you during my recovery.”

The Response

“Please don’t apologize.”

“You have nothing to be sorry for.”

“Your only job is to get better.”

What all that sounds like to my brain

“Be quiet and stop reminding me that you are inconveniencing me.”

“I’d rather not think about all the extra things I need to do because you are unable to do them yourself.”

“You get to lay around doing nothing while I have to pick up after you.”

I’ve been working hard on just staying quiet.

But recently, saying “I’m sorry” has turned into saying “thank you.”

Avoiding apologizing, especially right now in the thick of my healing, has been tough. But I’ve been catching myself, and instead started to thank people instead of apologizing. It seemed like a great alternative. I could still acknowledge what another person had done for me, and they could feel appreciated.

Except, I was told the “thank you” was assumed, and I didn’t need to say it anymore.

I wish this post had a better ended, but I have yet to figure out what words I’m supposed to say here. I want to make myself and the people around me feel a little better about my current situation. I’m hoping to challenge myself with new phrases that will make myself and my caregivers feel good about our interactions.

Do you have any phrases you use to show your thanks to the people around you?

Stay beautiful,
Victoria Leigh

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